When I told Nikki - a colleague who lived in the Philippines for three years - how wonderful my girlfriend's visit was, she asked me: "Aren't you two not allowed to be in the same room because you're not married yet?" I smiled and nodded. "So, what did you do? Did you put a stack of pillows between the two of you to resist temptation?" I looked at her, smirked and finally said, "Yeah, like the pillows can actually do anything."